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Reflections, observations, and essays from Dr. Kerry O'Reilly's clinical practice and decades of listening to women's stories.

Why do I Feel like I’m Walking on Eggshells in my Relationship?

Published on: 03/09/2026

Walking on eggshells in a relationship? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly explains the quiet fear behind it and a gentle way back to yourself.

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Why do I Lose Myself in Relationships?

Published on: 01/09/2026

Losing yourself in a relationship? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly explains how your inner voice with negative beliefs are behind it, and how to come back to who you used to be.

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Why can’t I tell my partner what I need?

Published on: 27/08/2026

Can’t tell your partner what you need? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly takes the block apart layer by layer, and explains why holding it in costs both of you.

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Why Do I Apologize and Feel Everything is my Fault?

Published on: 24/08/2026

Why do I apologize so much? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly explains the inner voice behind constant sorry and sorts the four kinds of sorry and explains the old deal underneath the one that costs you.

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Terri Cole vs Nedra Tawwab: Which Approach Helps People-Pleasers More?

Published on: 03/08/2026

Terri Cole vs Nedra Tawwab: an honest, kind comparison of two boundaries experts — plus the self-silencing pattern both point to. Free, research-based assessment.

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