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Reflections, observations, and essays from Dr. Kerry O'Reilly's clinical practice and decades of listening to women's stories.

Why Do I People-Please and Struggle to Say No?

Why Do I People-Please and Struggle to Say No?

Published on: 10/09/2026

PSaying yes when you mean no? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly adds up what people-pleasing actually costs, and explains why boundary advice keeps sliding off.

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Why do I Feel like I’m Walking on Eggshells in my Relationship?

Why do I Feel like I’m Walking on Eggshells in my Relationship?

Published on: 03/09/2026

Walking on eggshells in a relationship? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly explains the quiet fear behind it and a gentle way back to yourself.

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Why do I Lose Myself in Relationships?

Why do I Lose Myself in Relationships?

Published on: 01/09/2026

Losing yourself in a relationship? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly explains how your inner voice with negative beliefs are behind it, and how to come back to who you used to be.

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Why Do I Apologize and Feel Everything is my Fault?

Why Do I Apologize and Feel Everything is my Fault?

Published on: 24/08/2026

Why do I apologize so much? Dr. Kerry O’Reilly explains the inner voice behind constant sorry and sorts the four kinds of sorry and explains the old deal underneath the one that costs you.

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Why Women Feel Lonely in Relationships — Even the Good Ones

Why Women Feel Lonely in Relationships — Even the Good Ones

Published on: 03/08/2026

Why do women feel lonely in relationships that look fine from the outside? Dr. Kerry O'Reilly, a psychoanalyst explains "going quiet," self-silencing, and the inner prosecutor — and the first step back to feeling heard.

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